OK, here’s the truth: Not all men are born with good looks and charm. In fact, lots of guys are born with neither. But does that mean you’re fated to spend your life alone in your apartment, with only Netflix and your dog to keep you company? Absolutely not.
The truth is that while looks do matter to men and women alike, it’s far from the most important thing when it comes to finding a partner. The science of sexual attraction is a complex one that involves multiple different factors, from the way you smell to the shape of your jaw to even the color of the shirt you’re wearing.
Though you may not exactly bear a resemblance to Ryan Gosling or possess the silver tongue of, uh, Ryan Gosling, there are still plenty of ways to make yourself more attractive. Here are 17 strategies to attracting the partner of your dreams, whether in the club, in the park, or on an online dating app.
1. Travel with an entourage
If you’re headed out on the town, grab a few buddies to be your wingmen. According to a study from the University of California at San Diego, people were rated as better-looking when they were in group photos than in solo shots.
Credit it to something called the “cheerleader effect,” the researchers say. People appear more attractive in groups because viewing faces together makes them look more like the group average—which can help “even out” any one person’s unattractive idiosyncrasies. (This does not, however, apply to dating apps, where you should neveruse a group photo.)