Once upon a time, I was a sex fiend. I was having it all the time either because I was in a relationship or I was hooking up with people. These days, however, I’m single and celibate. I thought not having sex would pretty much kill me, that I wouldn’t survive without it because I needed it so much. Turns out, I’m totally fine.
1. I NEVER USED TO GO SO LONG WITHOUT HAVING IT AND IT’S KINDA WEIRD.
I’ve essentially always had regular sex happening in my life. I was a serious monogamist and on the few occasions I wasn’t in a relationship, there was no shortage of hookups on the horizon. There weren’t really periods of my life that I went without having sex, so this is new to me to have a long period where I’m just not getting laid. It’s not good or bad, just interesting.
2. I GENUINELY THOUGHT SOMETHING TERRIBLE WOULD HAPPEN TO ME WHILE SEXLESS.
Because of my history of years and years of consistent sex, I didn’t know what’d happen if I went without it. I thought that I might shrivel up and die. I really didn’t think I’d be able to live without it. I knew that people did it, but I just didn’t think I’d be one of those people. I felt like I needed sex like I needed air to breathe. This turned out to be a lie.
3. I’M NOT INTO CASUAL HOOKUPS ANYMORE.
One of the biggest reasons I’ve gone without sex for so long now is that I don’t hook up with people randomly or at all anymore. I used to be the type of person who did it a lot, but no longer. I’m not into just having sex and then walking the other direction. It hurts my feelings too much and I get way too attached, so I avoid the casual types entirely.